I came to realize it is about what you focus your attention on! What you focus on gets magnified. We must be the gatekeepers of our EyeGates! Then the compulsion to do it again, so soon! Never content, never satisfied. Like anything, the more you practice it, the more of a habit it becomes. Recently I did one of The most expensive investments of my life: I bought myself one day more freedom per week.
So now I have all wednedays for me, my kids and all The Things I always wanted to do. Best decision ever. I love my job, but now even more???? I learned first hand that material possessions will not make me happy. I learned this after busting my hump for over a decade to build up a great paying career. I hated the job, but it was great pay so I bought things trying to make me happy.
It never worked and I left that job and stopped buying nonsense. It just pays bill to exist. Not much of a life is it? I never expected the truth about life to suck this bad. Reading your post made me really sad, I felt I needed to reply. I know how you feel to be doing something you hate just to earn a good wage. For me the things worth living for are natural, I think the world is a beautiful place and I feel privileged to be able to enjoy nature.
I hope you find something that can fulfil your life, perhaps even something as simple as a new line of work that you actually enjoy rather than do for the money. I believe happiness is to have a plan, and to have certainty of being healthy, having shelter and food. I used to live in a so-called paradise island, but managed politically and economically in a terrible way. I also used to think that material possessions would make me happy, but living now in Canada and having almost everything I wanted, I now realized that living in a politically stable and economically secure first world country is what gives me the piece of mind to be happy.
I see many people wanting to give up their jobs and lives to move to a so called island paradise in some shitty country, thinking that they can live forever swimming in a beach and eating coconuts and avocados.
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Once the euphoria of the new place is gone, then they want to move back to an orderly society. So you see, to me, happiness is having a plan for the future and pursue it with relative piece of mind and in good company. Please know you are loved. You have a purpose. Thanks for this wonderful post.
I have learned from personal experience that no amount of physical possession and achievement can earn one a lasting happiness. There will always be a great moment of happiness as soon we get whatever we desire, but after a while that same thing we treasured so much would start becoming irrelevant as soon as we see something else worth having. The key to happiness to me is contentment.
Books for instance, they give endless pleasure. I used to think like you do as well, but then I realized something important: that is its not the things themselves that make us happy, but the experiences and feelings they bring us that do. Same with art and other beautiful things. Another thing is, even books or art you treasure deeply now will eventually lose their charms as time pass because we keep changing and growing as a person, so is our interests and preferences.
How many pieces of jewellery does one person need I keep asking. I am also blessed to be in good health, so all things considered I have a lot to be thankful for. I just pray and ask God for guidance when I feel the urge rising within me to tap on the eBay application. Of course jewellery matters! But not at the expense of everything else.
Family, friends, good health and the love of our Heavenly Father are all we really should want. It used to be cell phones, then computers, my latest obsession is safety Razors, I decided I wanted to get back into wet shaving and started buying Razors, brushes, shave cream, soap, aftershave.
I now have nine Razors! It just seems I need to keep buying things to make me happy. The issue can be the searching or shopping for items without actually purchasing them as the buying of them itself. It is frustrating as I am a reasonably intelligent person and know that what I am doing is pretty stupid. It is masking other underlying issues there the issues we all need to address, its just knowing what they are and where to start…..
I come back to this post anytime I feel the need to remind myself why I should not purchase that item. Do I really need it..? But there is nothing wrong with treating yourself to something nice once in a while. Life is too short. How can you sell things that you need when it is food? Isnt it that when you are running out of cash you instinctively sell the things you do not need in the first place. That is a dumb proverb haha.
I think this is only true if you buy things for the wrong reasons. But if the things you buy are based on their utility and value to you, and if they really do provide the utility you expected, then buying things will reduce the time or energy you spend accomplishing your goals, which can make you happy.
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True that. Every aspiring musician knows that buying the first instrument or a new one that is more suitable for their current level is the purchase that makes them happy for years to come. Do you honestly think people who use retail therapy buy things to impress others? No, they buy things to keep themselves happy, to keep bad thoughts away and the new purchase brings with it a momentary sense of excitement and happiness.
Treat yourself! Your feelings are more important than what some people with superiority complex think.
Not everyone has the luxury to be this philosophical and look down on people who are just trying to cope. Less things means less to clean, more room to enjoy what I love. Wrong statement…! This type of thinking makes a person miser and cannot live the life to fullest. Remember you get to live only once so live your life to fullest.
Buy your desired things if you have money and please share to others also. Remember nature has abundance life. You choose your desires.
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